Is becoming cynical an inevitable consequence of long experience as a founder or investor?

Harry Stebbings · Sep 27, 2023

Nine years of doing venture has made him the cynic in VC

He's weathered and has seen a lot

Scope: about himself

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Mamoon Hamid · Oct 21, 2024

Accumulated experience and scars can hurt a venture investor by narrowing open-mindedness; the job requires preserving naivete and the ability to dream

Too many scars make it harder to stay open-minded and imagine what the next Figma or Rippling will be

Scope: experience still has value, he just tries not to let it weigh him down

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Martin Mignot · Aug 11, 2025

Keeping a beginner's mindset is essential for any investor and very hard to sustain

Index's mediocre Last.fm investment taught them the music industry was impossible to make money in, which led them to pass on Spotify multiple times despite loving Daniel Ek and the product

Scope: notes mediocre investments, not just bad ones, create this bias

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Marc Andreessen · Mar 30, 2026

Learning from mistakes is particularly pernicious in venture capital because a bad experience in a category makes investors refuse the next good opportunity in it

Founders and VCs get emotionally scalded by a failure in a category and then refuse to back the next pattern-matching company even when it's the one they should invest in

Scope: particularly true in venture capital; also somewhat true in life generally

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Christian Lanng · Sep 27, 2023

Founders should be critical, not cynical — being critical pressure-tests an idea to improve it, while cynicism means giving up before trying; a founder who has become the cynic in the room is done

He recognised he was the cynic in the room, hearing the same strategy for the 17th time, and the founder is the last person who should be the cynic

13:33 Cynicism in the founder seat means you are done

Christian Lanng · Sep 27, 2023

It is important to actively push yourself not to become the cynic and to force yourself to look at new things with fresh eyes

If you don't look at stuff with fresh eyes you dismiss things without testing them; he made himself seriously explore crypto rather than write it off

14:03 Force fresh eyes onto new things deliberately

Christian Lanng · Sep 27, 2023

If you let broken trust make you jaded, you let the people who hurt you define who you are

Better to give them no energy and focus on what you're building and on being happy, which he calls the best form of revenge

37:15 Jadedness lets the people who hurt you define you

David Meyer · Nov 1, 2023

Becoming more cynical and selective with time is something to embrace — reducing the dimensions you care about makes you more powerful through focus, domain context, point of view and impact

There is so much optionality in the world that narrowing what you care about concentrates capability; not caring about another BI tool is a blessing

32:00 Embracing selective cynicism with age concentrates power through focus

Martin Mignot · Aug 11, 2025

When you have an exceptional founder with a unique insight and visible signs of execution, don't overthink it — even in an industry where you've been burned

The industry's desire to appear smart and diligent creates a widespread tendency to overthink, which is how deals like Spotify get passed on

21:39 Override scar tissue when founder and execution signals are strong